What is Date Coaching? (For Men)
The good thing about being a man in today’s dating world is that you are less off track than the woman are. Women are suffering from a multi-pronged, systematic attack, employing an echo chamber of pressure that takes them further and further off track. The disruption and damage done to men in the dating world has been solely through your external encounters with women, not from within.
That being said, that damage is no joke! Not getting a single match despite hundreds of hours spent swiping and messaging is crushing. But being scolded, disrespected, and outright insulted by women who initially seemed to be normal/civil can really mess you up.
Working with at-risk and delinquent youth for over a decade taught me that it’s difficult for a woman to teach a boy how to be a man. As a counselor, I could help boys navigate the pressures of school and parents better, giving them hacks and helping them understand how other people think. But I could not teach them how to be men, or how to feel good about themselves as men.
So I began looking for male mentors for my students. This was one of my founding principles as my practice expanded into a holistic, wrap-around counseling program. Sometimes I would just pop the student into my car and bring them over to a friend who worked in the same industry the student showed aptitude/interest in. And let the men talk.
My goal as a date coach is not to tell you how to be a man. That I cannot do (and no woman should try to do).
What I CAN do:
help UNDO the damage that other women have inflicted
help you understand women better (explain the female thought process and motivators )
help you dial down on where and what types of woman you should be looking for
help you present yourself in a way that appeals to a broader range of women
The goals of date coaching are as follows:
1) Realign and reset views towards women and dating/romantic relationships
2) Explore dating/romantic history and reassess past experiences; resolve the causes and effects of previous challenges.
3) Establish specific habits that will improve your ability to meet, get to know, and date eligible women in real life.
4) Discernment - how to tell good character from bad in women without getting emotionally injured or entangled first.
5) Dialing down: How to tell when you are genuinely attracted, and when a woman is attracted in return.
Later sessions of date coaching, if service is renewed (or client begins at this stage) cover:
1) Taking casual acquaintances/friends to the next level, getting on that first date.
2) Communication traps and how to avoid/navigate them in the early stages.
3) Date planning without stress, keeping it organic and fun.
4) Dating with honor: what are your obligations? What do you want: physically, emotionally, and more?
5) Planning for the future – what is a healthy timeline, depending on both of your unique personalities and situations?
The goal of date coaching is not to completely shield you from the potentially painful experience of rejection.
The goal of date coaching is to get you as healthy and informed as possible so that:
You are radiating your appeal without any cloud of confusion or insecurity.
Discernment is optimal and moves are made in confidence.
Setbacks are taken in stride.
Ultimately, you will feel/see that you are making visible and sustainable progress along your journey to finding and claiming your future wife.
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